现在年轻人比老者更有竞争力，那就应该是互相尊重才对 Now that young people are more competitive than old people, it should be respectful of each other.

昨天早上带她去学校，一路上她准备她当天要做的中文成语的“姿蚊饱血”presentation，我看了她自己写的演讲稿，还有一帧一帧的演讲slide.她怎么可以写那么多？88，她好像有潜力继承你的衣钵哟！准备presentation slides ,是我们读博士研究生时才开始做的呀, 这是公众演讲能力之一呀，这边小孩子很早都自己会用电脑，用Microsoft Office写东西准备这些东西了.国内开会你们还是记笔记了，今天我只看见张德江在开会的时候，后面有电子屏幕但是没有视频.我问她这个故事是什么意思，她不知道.于是跟她解释为什么八岁小孩宁愿自己给蚊子咬，让爸爸可以好好睡觉，“孝”是中国文化的美德。“孝”是对长辈的尊重，服从，服务.在美国，现在社会父母儿女那么平等的，小孩子不太会理解也不认同“孝”，他们会说拿一个驱蚊器穿喷一下就好了，为什么要让蚊子咬呀！是啊，这么简单的事儿，在古代却是作为一种道德美德来宣扬的呀。为什么呢？因为以前生产力低下，社会结构稳定，年长的比较有智慧和经历，所以“孝”就成了千百年来的美德了.现在生产力科技日新月异，一日千里，很多年轻人反而更代表着先进生产力。在美国是没有养儿防老一说的，年轻人比老者更有竞争力，那就应该是互相尊重才对.我联想到很多事情，觉得道德，这个人类社会公共规范中的约束力，也是随着文明程度和社会结构的变化而变化的. 最简单的亲密关系，男女情爱，这是人性最基本的欲望和需要之一，不同于食欲，其中还有超过生理的心理情感的成分.应该说婚姻不是最好的男女相处的方式，因为人性总是需要不断地有新鲜的刺激，就像植物需要不停的吸收水分，接受阳光来获取养分，如果与这些男女有关的社会关系和资源没法支持这样的男女关系，或者双方生理上对性有不同的需求，婚姻关系可能就很难维持. 经济上的富足，或者人的独立性强，在欧美社会产生有别传统的更多的男女关系的变化。 比如不婚，比如同性恋.但是生儿育女需要父母双方的长时间的陪伴和花心血养育，这抑制了个体对精彩丰富生活的追求.

 

Yesterday morning I took her to school, and along the way reviewing her presentation prepared of the Chinese idiom "Let Mosquitoes Suck Blood" that she would do that day. I read the speeches she wrote herself, and there are slides of speeches frame by frame. How can she write so much? 88, she seems to have the potential to inherit your mantle! Preparing presentation slides, which we started doing when we were  PhD students. This is one of the public speaking skills. Children here will use computers and write things in Microsoft Office early to prepare these things. You in Beijing still take notes. Today, I only saw Zhang Dejiang having a video screen but no video at the back of the meeting. I asked her what the story meant, and she didn’t know. So I explained to her why the eight-year-old would rather let the mosquito bite, so that his father can sleep well, "filial piety" is a virtue of Chinese culture. "Filial piety" is respect, obedience, and service for elders. In the United States, parents and children are so equal in society. Children do not understand and agree with "filial piety". They will say that it is good just to do insect spray. Why should let mosquitoes bite! Yes, such a simple thing was proclaimed as a moral virtue in ancient times. Why? Because the productivity was low, the social structure was stable, and the older ones were more intelligent and experienced, "filial piety" has become a virtue for thousands of years. Now productivity technology is changing with each passing day, and many young people are more representative of advanced productivity. There is no such thing as raising children and guarding against the elderly in the United States. Young people are more competitive than the elderly. That is, they should respect each other. I think of many things. I feel that morality, the binding force in the public norms of human society, also follows changes with the degree of civilization and social structure. The simplest intimate relationship, love between men and women, this is one of the most basic desires and needs of human nature, different from appetite, which also contains psychological emotional components more than physiological. It should be said marriage is not the best way for men and women to get along, because human nature always needs fresh stimulation, just like plants need to constantly absorb water and receive sunlight to obtain nutrients, if the social relations and resources related to these men and women are not available to support such a relationship between men and women, or if the two parties have different physiological needs, the marriage relationship may be difficult to maintain. Economic prosperity, or strong independence of people, has produced more change than traditional male-female relationships in European and American society. Such as unmarried, such as homosexuality. However, childbearing and childbirth require long-term companionship and hard work of both parents, which inhibits the individual's pursuit of a wonderful and rich life.