在美国一个孩子的形体强壮，胜过智力上的聪明，要受其他孩子欢迎得多了  In the United States, a child’s physical strength is better than intellectual intelligence, and it is much welcomed by other children.

美国的孩子生出来不久，就以孩子的性别特征来养育的。去买婴儿用品, 从来就是男女不同的. 这边的拉丁裔，一岁多的女婴就打耳孔了。拉丁文化不太注重孩子的教育，小学女孩子就学怎么打扮，99c store有各种各样的便宜的首饰，头饰, 珠宝, 项链, 手环, 口红, 化妆品，等等，孩子的妈变着花样给女孩子每天各种打扮。小学的时候，Jackie回来告诉我，有些拉丁女孩子在一起每天讲衣服式样，发式. 他们让女孩子早点知道怎么样吸引异性，早点准备嫁人离开家庭，所以女孩子有些很早就结婚了。我的一个房客女儿17岁，跟黑人dating, 她爸爸不高兴. 19岁就结婚离家做妈妈了。这也是经济条件决定的。西方文化对男尊女卑不像亚洲文化那么厉害的。因为有些工作男女分工明确，比如男人承担家庭经济责任多一些，女人更多是服务，管家照顾小孩。人口也没有那么多，竞争也没有那么厉害。在中国，一个女生要独立，有工作有收入是非常重要的，如果男女分开两地，为了保持工作，即使结婚了，也可以长期忍受分居。这在美国是很少的，如果先生异地找到工作，那就全家一起搬去. 要两地分居，除非离婚。所以我很理解骆家辉离婚，如果太太带儿女回美国读书，两地长久分居，那就合法让大家各自寻找异性伴侣，有健康性生活的权利！同时，因为有从世界各地来到美国的人，带来了不同的文化，有各种各样的价值和生活方式，美国对小孩子的性格教育比较宽松的. 中国社会有几千年的男尊女卑，老少尊卑，一个孩子在成长过程中，从小就受到环境很强的影响，无形中受压抑规规矩矩的. 而且中国人口多，尤其大城市，摩天大楼的天际线看不到晴朗大片蓝天，孩子们又缺少适当的户外锻炼，影响孩子的性格和气质！少一点属于适合年龄的天真活泼。相比之下，美国的孩子从托儿所幼儿园一直到中学，因为功课分量少, 有很多的课外活动时间, 孩子可以有各种各样的体育, 文艺活动, 性格比较阳光。孩子可以去跳芭蕾, 滑冰, 学乐器, 网球, 足球, 篮球, 垒球, 游泳, 击剑, 跳水。也可以去画画，写作，手工艺，园艺，下棋，等等。父母有钱, 有时间可以让孩子多学几门才艺的. 在美国一个孩子的形体强壮，胜过智力上的聪明，要受其他孩子欢迎得多了。而受孩子欢迎的人一般社交能力强，能言善道的。美国的社会是以服务业为主的，中低层制造业基本上都外移，所以美国更需要善于跟人打交道的，有口才的，高颜值的，有个性魅力的，而不是坐办公室的。而中国是发展中国家，以前是半殖民地半封建，没有强大的工业科技基础。所以就像日本的明治维新，全中国好几代人，需要尽快吸收西方先进的科学技术，并将其转为产能来生产建造！中国过去30年的大规模基础建设，需要一批能读懂blue print的, 知道各种建筑规格和部件, 知道如何使用工具的人。中国是制造业大国，需要一批能动手的，有深厚理工基础的各行各业工程师. 所以孩子们在学校里要拼命地学习，象高中学的那些数学只能算是基础知识，到了大学高等数学不高等，进入博士生领域，还需要补很多有关的数学知识，比如statistics, queuing theory. 因为没有这些基础，根本无法进入专业领域。

 

Soon after the children are  in the United States, they are raised with the gender characteristics. To buy baby products, it has always been different for boys and girls. Latino baby girl over one year old has ear piercing. Latin culture does not pay much attention to children's education, primary school girls learn how to dress up. 99c store has a variety of cheap jewelry, headwear, jewelry, necklaces, bracelets, lipstick, cosmetics, etc., the child's mother changed the pattern giving girls a variety of dresses every day. When Jackie was in elementary school, Jackie came back and told me that some Latin girls talked about clothes and hair styles every day. They let the girls know how to attract the opposite sex and get ready to marry and leave the family early. The daughter of one of my tenants was dating with the black at the age of 17, and her father was not happy. At the age of 19, she got married and left her home as a mother. This is also determined by economic conditions.  In Western culture male superiority is not as powerful as in Asian culture. Because some jobs are clear about men and women responsibilities, for example, men bear more family financial responsibilities, women provide more services, and housekeepers taking care of children.  The population is not so much, and the competition is not so powerful. In China, it is very important for a girl to be independent. It is very important to have a job and income. If Chinese men and women are separated from each other, in order to keep a job and stay married, they can also endure separation for a long time. This is very rare in Western culture. If the husband finds a job in a different place, then the whole family will move together. It is necessary to separate in two places unless divorced. Therefore, I understand that Locke is divorced. If the wife takes her children back to the United States and in two places are separated for a long time, then it is legal to let everyone look for a heterosexual partner and have the right to a healthy sex life! At the same time, because people from all over the world come to the United States, they bring different cultures, have various values ​​and lifestyles, and the United States has a more relaxed character education for children. Chinese society has thousands of years of male superiority. When a child grows up, he is influenced by the environment from an early age. He is invisibly restrained and regulated. Moreover, China has a large population, especially in big cities. The skyline of skyscrapers blocks a large blue sky. The children lack proper outdoor exercise, thus affects their character and temperament! Less innocent and lively for their ages. In contrast, children in the United States go from nursery kindergartens to elementary schools. Because of the small amount of homework and big amount of extracurricular activities, children can have a variety of sports, cultural activities, and a sunny personality. Children can go ballet, ice skating, learning musical instruments, tennis, football, basketball, softball, swimming, fencing, diving. They can also go to drawing, writing, crafts, gardening, playing chess, and more. If parents have money, will have time to let children learn more talents. In the United States, a child's physical strength is better than intellectual intelligence, and it is much more popular with other children. People who are welcomed by children are generally socially capable and can speak well. The American society is mainly based on the service industry. The middle and low-level manufacturing industries are basically moving out. Therefore, Americans need to be good at dealing with people, eloquent, high-value, and attractive, rather than sitting in the office. China is a developing country. It used to be semi-colonial and semi-feudal, without a strong industrial science and technology foundation. Therefore, just like the Meiji Restoration in Japan, many generations in China need to absorb the advanced science and technology of the West as soon as possible and turn it into production capacity to build and construct! China's large-scale infrastructure over the past 30 years requires a group of people who can read blue print, know various building specifications, components, and know how to use tools. China is a big manufacturing country and needs a group of engineers from all walks of life who have a deep foundation of science and engineering. So children must study hard at school. The mathematics like high school can only be regarded as basic knowledge, and even university advanced mathematics is  not so advanced. Entering the doctoral field, you also need to gain a lot of relevant mathematical knowledge, such as statistics, queuing theory. Because without these foundations, you can not enter the professional field.